When Loss Becomes Direction



As I reflect on my journey, I am drawn back to 2008, the year I lost a job I had clung to as though my life depended on it. At the time, it felt like an ending. In truth, it was an unveiling.

What I once saw as security was perhaps a limitation in disguise. In losing it, I was gently pushed toward paths I might never have chosen: coaching, philosophy, and art. Each opened a new window into understanding not just the world, but myself.

I have come to see that life does not always guide us through certainty, but often through disruption. What appears as loss may, in time, reveal itself as direction.

The journey, I now realise, is not about holding on, but about becoming.

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